Lately, I’ve been overcome by a lot of emotions concerning pairings I used to love. Well, I still do, but either the show isn’t airing anymore or the pairing isn’t on it anymore. Either way, all of these ships are personal to me, because together they make this puzzle of how I want to love and live and be loved and wanted. Second on that list is a pairing from Grey’s Anatomy, Addison and Derek.
Why them? Essentially, it is about the fact that we are a generation of quitters. It does sound harsh and a part of it is meant to be harsh, to be rude, to be loud in its message. Also, what I love about them is not for everyone, it’s not necessarily something that makes everyone happy or fulfills everyone’s desires. For me, though, the idea of Addison and Derek is that marriage isn’t about being in love for the rest of your life. Frankly, I don’t believe in that idea. I don’t believe in this picture painted by Walt Disney. For me, marriage is a promise to be loyal, to be supportive, to be courageous enough not to give up. Adultery is a huge blow, it’s a difficult thing to work through, but I guess I like to believe that committing yourself to someone in the way marriage demands of you, I want to think it’s possible. I want to believe that people can grow old together, that instead of telling the stories of things that almost happened, they’ll tell their children and their grand-children about the stories that did. They’ll tell them that relationships are hard, that marriage is hard, that you have to get up and commit yourself to it everyday, just to make it through the day, the week, the month, the year, but that it’s worth it. That there’s nothing like being with someone for 30 or 40 or 50 years and knowing them inside out and also knowing that they know you inside out, too, and are still with you. I want marriage to be friendship, loyalty, support and faith.